If you tell my husband about this post, I'll deny it til I die and delete it immediately, but it's definitely worth mentioning since I've really thought about it a lot.
I thought for sure after D was born that we'd have one more child. ONE more child. Just one. I thought for sure when I was pregnant with Allie that we would be done. I really thought we would be done when we found out Allie was a girl. I knew I'd never want another and that would be the end of my pregnancy days.
Parenting 2 children is at least twice as hard as one, so far. I was at a point with Dawson where I could literally do whatever I wanted. Go to the store? Throw him in the car and off we go. No diaper bag needed. No bottles, no physically feeding him. I mean he's almost 3. He can do a lot by himself now. Then Allie was born and I've had to slow down. She's only 5 weeks old (tomorrow) but she's definitely a handful.
BUT all of that said...I don't have that "we're done" feeling. I really don't. Everyone says that you'll just know when you're done. But I don't know that, not yet. Maybe it will hit me later. Maybe I'm different and don't "just know" and I'll just have to go with the flow, but it would not shock me if in a few years we decide to have just one more. It also wouldn't surprise me if we never ever go back to baby days and seriously enjoy raising our 2 babies.
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I have tried very hard to feel that way with things since Judah was born and I don't feel it. At all. Things seem incomplete for both of us. Which is a big part of why we'll probably TTC again late next year. And considering (as you well know) I don't do pregnancy well and the risk of another child with autism...it's gotta be a pretty big feeling before we'd just jump in with two feet. But I don't feel done. Nothing feels like it was for the last time. It's kind of exciting.
And even when you do KNOW, for certain, that you're done, you can still find yourself pregnant again. ;)
Now I wouldn't have it any other way, but 3 seemed daunting to me, especially when Addie was a newborn. Don't write the idea off!
I honestly don't know that feeling. They asked me if I wanted my tubes tied when they took Haddie out - and I wasn't sure - it seemed so permanent. Within a week of her being born I knew, without a doubt, that I was done. So much so that Steve had a vasectamy (sp?) when she was 8 weeks old - and I am looking into permanent solutions for myself.
I truly think you'll know :)
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